We often underestimate how much our thoughts and words affect our daily lives. Neuroscience research shows that our thoughts shape our reality, and the language we use can greatly influence our behaviour and interactions.

The Influence of Words on Our Perceptions

First, it is crucial to listen to and observe what we say to understand our view of the world. A client once told me, “each of us has a war to fight,” when discussing team conflicts. I asked if he had thought about this phrase. He replied, “it’s just a common saying”. Phrases like these can shape our worldview and influence how we behave or expect others to act.

The word “war” is intimidating for most people. When I was a product manager, we had our weekly meetings in the “war room.” Even though it was just a borrowed term, I always felt nervous before entering. This shows how language can evoke strong emotions and shape our experiences.

Reframing Perspectives for Positive Change

To help my client see things differently, I asked him to find another way to express his thoughts. He said, “each of us has its own challenges to overcome.” Instantly, his feelings changed from defensive to empathetic towards his team members. The change was clear.

Neuroscience supports this transformation. Studies show that the words we use can rewire our brains. Our brains perform many complex steps to produce speech, and these steps are linked to our emotions and perceptions (Harvard Gazette). Negative language can cause stress, while positive language can make us feel better.

The Power of Self-Talk

The power of self-talk—the words we tell ourselves—is huge. Positive self-talk can boost our confidence and resilience, while negative self-talk can lower our self-esteem and performance. Research shows that positive affirmations and constructive language can improve our mental and emotional states, leading to better outcomes in life (ideas.ted.com).

Changing habits starts with awareness. By paying attention to the language we use, we can spot negative patterns and replace them with positive ones. This takes practice and consistency but can lead to big changes in our mindset and behaviour. For example, the BRM Institute says positive language can drive better communication and collaboration, boosting innovation and value (BRM Institute).

Also, watching our language can improve our relationships. When we speak with empathy and positive framing, we build stronger connections and trust with others, which is key in both personal and professional settings.

Creating a Positive Team Dynamic

Using these insights in team dynamics can create a more supportive and collaborative environment. Encouraging team members to use positive language and reframe challenges can boost their resilience and productivity. Leaders play a crucial role in modelling this behaviour and creating a culture where positive communication is valued and practiced.

Observe the words and the thoughts you use, knowing that they have a significant impact on our reality. Once you pick up at least 3 words or one phrase you want to change, try to rephrase. You will see how you can promote positivity and empathy, changing our experiences. Neuroscience offers a solid foundation for understanding this power and gives practical strategies for developing healthier habits. Through mindful communication, we can create a more supportive and empowering environment for ourselves and those around us. 

You want an example? Instead of saying: “This colleague is always negative and makes me nervous”, actively think: “I see this person could improve its life by focusing on the positive surrounding us”. You won´t change the other person, you will tell you a different story based on the same person.

If you want to explore these concepts further and work on changing your habits, consider partnering with me. Together, we can unlock your full potential and achieve personal and professional success.